Watching the Weight

I have a job interview in a little over a week.  A great deal rides on this interview, although I suppose that’s true of most interviews.  I tried on my suit last week, a suit I bought pre-childbirth and couldn’t button the pants.  I’ve been in the fetal position since then wondering how I’m possibly going to get a job in a competitive school system when I can’t even button my pants.
I tried the pants on today, and I buttoned them…barely.  I can’t get a shirt tucked in.  But with a jacket, I think I can button over anything that’s not tucked.  That’s the conversation Husband and I had in the kitchen this afternoon, me in suit pants, no shirt, and suit jacket. The ridiculousness of that discussion led me immediately to the couch where I turned on the laptop, pulled out my credit card, and signed up for Weight Watchers.
I completed a triathlon.  I ran a marathon.  Surely I can lose the 26.8 pounds.


Hello? ello? ello? lo?

Is there anyone still out here?  The last post was by me, well over a year ago.  I guess we just drifted off and faded.  But I’m here.  And I’m going to write.  I hope that’s okay.

Not the haircut’s fault

I got my hair cut on a week ago.  It was my quarterly haircut, and I made the appointment in my usual fashion: call various salons an hour before I wanted the appointment and see if anyone had an opening.  I got lucky this time; I only had to call three salons.  Unfortunately, the salon that had the opening was the same salon where I got my last haircut-the haircut that led me to sob uncontrollably on the way home and reminded me again, when I got home, that a guy is not going to understand the pain of a bad haircut and will instead, do what he thinks is right, and say, in a soothing tone, I think your hair looks fine, while trying very hard to glance subtly at Ninja Warrior.
Try not to cry,
my co-workers encouraged me after giving suggestions on what I should do with the frizzy mound on top of my scalp.  A few minutes after assuring my co-workers that I would not cry this time, I sat in the chair at the salon telling Simouen that I hadn’t the faintest clue what I should do with my hair.  I gave her my co-workers’ conflicting suggestions, rambled for about 20 minutes, admitted that I thought my face was fat, and finally smiled and said, Do what you think is best.  You’re the expert.
So she did, and she spun me around in the chair and gushed about how much better my hair looked.  I smiled and thanked her and agreed that yes, it is much better, thank you so much.  I lied to Simouen.
I spent the evening on the couch (unrelated to the haircut) assuming the reason my husband hadn’t commented on my hair (still hasn’t, a week later), which was now much shorter than it had been when he say me 14 hours earlier, was because it was just that awful.  I tried to put the haircut out of my mind, focusing instead on the cold I had that left me lying on the couch moaning I’m dying to anyone who looked at me.
The next morning I carefully washed my hair, carefully applied the mousse in a combing motion, carefully twisted strands of hair around my fingers, then looked in the mirror.
I hated what I saw.  I didn’t cry, but I hated what I saw.  It was crooked and framed my face oddly.  Not much I could do about it, since I had to go to work.  I chalked it up to another in a long string of bad haircuts and went about my morning routine.  Then it hit me:  the chances of all of my hairstylists in the last five years being incompetent and giving me bad cuts is a pretty small one.  Maybe it’s not them.  Maybe the woman with the Eurotrash mullet didn’t actually do the opposite of everything I told her.  Maybe it’s me.
I mulled this over on the drive to work and concluded that if my face were less fat, then maybe I’d be happier with my hair.  I thought about this in a critical way-not a criticizing way, just a critical one and tried to be as objective as possible, and I thought, yes, it is not the haircut’s fault.
I shared my epiphany with some coworkers who found it appalling.  I unsuccessfully tried to explain that I wasn’t actually being self-deprecating, but they shook their heads and looked at me as though I were growing a tail.  Then one of them asked, is it possible to ever be objective when it comes to our bodies?
Obviously the answer is no.  We can’t.  I think it’s nearly impossible to look in the mirror and see what a stranger on the street sees when looking at us, and even harder to look in the mirror and see what a loved one sees.  But I think it is possible to look at ourselves and think:  That part of me is fine.  This part needs a little work.  It’s not as bad as it could be, but I’ve got some work to do.  These are aspects of myself that I can easily live with; those are some areas where I want to improve.
And that is how I made peace with five years of bad haircuts, that maybe weren’t actually bad to begin with.

at my most beautiful

I’m scanning pictures tonight.  My mom pays me to do this, to sort, organize, and scan boxes of photographs from our family’s history.  I’ve seen myself in all sorts of stages and looks.  I’ve always thought of myself as a chubby girl, but looking back, I really wasn’t that bad.  And then-I came across this photo.

me, at 21

me, at 21

I was struck-am still struck, by something lovely in this girl who used to be me.  I don’t know if I can explain it because if I look at this picture objectively, it’s a picture of a girl in pajamas with glasses and bedhead whose left eye is doing something strange and whose arms could benefit from an introduction to handweights.  But there’s something inexplicable about this girl that makes me want to cry for no reason.  Not because looking at this picture from seven years ago makes me nostalgic for freedom and college and possibility.  Just because.
In this picture, it’s Christmas morning, 2001.  I’m in Florida, because that’s where we spend Christmas every now and then.  I think at this point we all knew my grandfather was fading, but I don’t think any of us were acknowledging it yet.  My cousin’s girlfriend kept dropping hints about how she really should become his fiancee soon, and I spent my days readingreadingreading.  My aunt-who was one of my best friends at the time-put red highlights in my hair.  On this Christmas morning, I was 21.  I think I weighed around 115.  My jeans were a size 4 on a normal day, a size 2 on a good day.
And I remember a good day, a good evening, really, when I walked into the bar at TGI Fridays wearing those size 2 jeans and a blue?  grey?  turtleneck, and my friend’s friend told me that I looked great.  I remember smiling, and thanking her, and knowing that what she said was true.  I did look great.  I don’t think it was the size 2 that made that girl, that version of me look great.  I think it was the knowing that made me look great, the knowing that I was fine just the way I was, the not stressing over my weight or even thinking about it really.  I think it was the confidence to smile and accept a compliment without somehow excusing it.  And I think that’s what I miss, that’s what I long for, even more than I long for the size 2 jeans.

Yeah, yeah

Everyone fell off the wagon.

But now that school has started, I don’t want to hear any excuses about how you don’t have time. Believe me, I understand being stretched for time. I get it. SO, other than my blatant accusations about your laziness, how is everyone doing?

Also, while in the middle of moving, I got a couple requests from people that wanted to join and now? I can’t find them. I know that Tobymine was one, and then maybe someone else? Hmmm. Point is, email me again and I’ll work some magic for you.  (

Now, to update you all on my fluffiness.

I’m working on it. Actually, I’m working without hardly doing anything because I just moved into a split level house and the laundry is down and the kitchen is up. Also, my house is on a hill. Therefore, after any errand, I have to haul my purchase and 4 kids up an entire flight of stairs x however many trips it takes. And, if we want clean clothes it’s up and down and up and down and up and down again.

But I’ve also made an effort to eat better. I sat down with my family, layed out all the weight watcher’s cookbooks I have, and asked “What do you want to eat?”

I made a menu plan, and went grocery shopping and have been cooking up a storm. It’s a lot easier to make dinner when I know what to expect. And since I involve my kids in the preparation process, they’re super excited to eat dinner because “I maded ‘dis!”

So, that’s where I’m at, my fluffy chicka’s. How ’bout you?

P.S. I have only had ONE Dr. Pepper this WEEK.  That in itself is an enormous accomplishment. Now I’m really done.

So Sore

posted by Toni

I am the poster child for couch potatoes.  My favorite activities are reading, movies, napping and snacking.  Is it any wonder that A. I’m overweight  B. I have no life.

Actually, my life is very entrenched in the schedules of my children, which I have tried to get involved in lots of active activities so that they don’t become couch potatoes.  But my responsibilities are driving and sitting on camp chairs while I cheer.  Still somewhat of a veg state.  Which is why I paid for someone to torture me and call it personal training.

I haven’t done sit ups since I started having children 21 years ago.  Yesterday I did 400 crunches.  That is 400 people!  Oh yes, I know.  I have been working up to it.  Yes, I also know that 400 probably isn’t really all that many.  But for me it is tremendous, and I did 400 after doing nothing for 21 years.

Today I have a stiff torso and my neck muscles hurt!!!  What’s up with that?  I thought I was working my abs, not my neck.  Is this how newborns feel after trying to lift their heads on their floppy little necks? 

Every week either my legs hurt, or my arms, or my torso.  I ask my Nazi PT if my muscles will ever stop being sore.  He just kind of laughs an evil laugh under his breath, feigns empathy and says “No, I’m afraid not.”

Sigh — I need a book and a bag of chocolates.

Let’s talk about it

By Jen (one of the Bossy Chicks)

Well Fluffy folks, it seems that we’ve been in kind of a rut here at Fight the Fluffy.  There hasn’t been a new post in almost two weeks and, in general, not a lot has been going on.

From this I can conclude that everyone’s either been super busy lately, everyone has hit their target weights, or everyone has lost interest.

I’m guilty of neglect too; I can’t even remember the last time I posted here.  And believe me, I certainly haven’t hit my target weight.

But that’s just me.  What about you?  Are you still interested in Fight the Fluffy?  Leave a comment and tell me honestly what you think.  Should we keep this going?  Thanks.